A Nigerian businessman, Tunde Raeef, has said a fulfilling marriage requires understanding between lovebirds.
The Lagos-based father of two who spoke with Muse.ng said understanding between himself and his wife has kept his marriage going for over four years.
Courting for almost seven years
Tunde told Muse.ng that he met his wife, Abimbola, at her work place in Lagos, adding that they courted for almost seven years before walking down the aisle.
Speaking on whether either of them felt like quitting during courtship, Tunde said nothing of such ever crossed their mind.
In his words: “We dated for almost seven years and there was no point in time I ever felt like going back. Though, we had issues getting to know each other but never to a point of quitting.”
Patience is important
According to the young man, the greatest lesson he has learnt from his marriage is patience.
He said after getting married he realised that his patience wasn’t enough, adding that he learnt to be more patient.
In his words: “You don’t have to be too rigid, flexibility is key in directing the affairs of the family.
“Working together is also an important lesson to me. I was used to it, but had to adjust.”
On why some marriages fail, Tunde said some of the factors responsible are individual differences and intolerance.
In his words: “It’s very key in marriage. That’s why getting to know each other is an important factor. You really need to know about your partner, what he or she likes and doesn’t.
Be patient, love each other, tolerate each other and put God first.“
The young man described his wife as a supportive, caring, loving, prayerful, and wonderful wife and mum, adding that he loves everything about the woman of his dream.
On her part, Abimbola described Tunde as an honest husband and father who has chosen to live a simple life.
Abimbola said God and continuous communication are the factors responsible for their marital bliss.
In her words: “We have had some agreed understanding even before marriage to always maintain continuous communication.”
She advised intending couples to know what works for them and that they shouldn’t jump into conclusion at every point, adding that God’s words should always be sought for understanding.